{"id":182,"date":"2011-06-28T23:34:58","date_gmt":"2011-06-29T04:34:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.opwfredericks.com\/archives\/182"},"modified":"2019-06-23T10:59:06","modified_gmt":"2019-06-23T15:59:06","slug":"in-memory-of-zachary-robert-warnock-october-6-1999-%e2%80%93-june-18-2011","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.opwfredericks.com\/?p=182","title":{"rendered":"In memory of Zachary Robert Warnock ~ October 6, 1999 &#8211; June 18, 2011"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Zachary Robert Warnock, son to my dear friend Larina and her husband Mark, and brother to Deanna, Shyla, and Kurtis, left his life with us this past June 18.<\/p>\n<p>I struggled for the words to say to Larina as she told me that morning on the phone that Zachary had died, but I failed miserably. What words can one speak to someone who has lost her child, over the phone, nearly 3,000 miles away? Simply, there are none.<\/p>\n<p>As the days passed, I remembered the many phone calls Larina and I shared over the past four years. I remembered Daniel&#8217;s and my brief, several-hour meeting with Larina in Philadelphia last summer when we met her in person for the first time. We walked the isles of the Farmer&#8217;s Market, sipped coffee outside a Starbuck&#8217;s, and sat together over dinner in her hotel&#8217;s restaurant, talking about everything and nothing in particular. We talked about Zack, and Deanna, and Shyla, and Kurtis, and Mark, like friends do; we talked about our families. In just about every conversation we&#8217;ve had, Zack was a part of the conversation, if not the main topic. Over the phone, often I would hear Zack&#8217;s soft giggles in the background, and I would comment to Larina how happy he sounded.<\/p>\n<p>During the past four years, Larina has shared many of her writings, both poetry and prose, about Zachary with me, and we published several of her pieces in <a href=\"http:\/\/www.thelivesyoutouch.com\/touchjournal\/Home\/index.html\"><em>Touch: The Journal of Healing<\/em><\/a>: &#8220;<a href=\"http:\/\/www.thelivesyoutouch.com\/touchjournal\/Issue01\/A_Little_Perspective.html\">A Little Perspective<\/a>,&#8221; &#8220;<a href=\"http:\/\/www.thelivesyoutouch.com\/touchjournal\/Issue02\/Hospital_Hush.html\">Hospital Hush<\/a>,&#8221; &#8220;<a href=\"http:\/\/www.thelivesyoutouch.com\/touchjournal\/Issue02\/The_Light_at_the_End.html\">The Light at the End<\/a>,&#8221; &#8220;<a href=\"http:\/\/www.thelivesyoutouch.com\/touchjournal\/Issue04\/They_Said.html\">They Said<\/a>,&#8221; and &#8220;<a href=\"http:\/\/www.thelivesyoutouch.com\/touchjournal\/Issue04\/Autumn_2003.html\">Autumn 2003<\/a>&#8220;.<\/p>\n<p>I have many more of the works she sent to me, either for critique or just to share, saved on my computer and on paper.<\/p>\n<p>For many people who didn&#8217;t know Zack and his family, I can imagine they would have found his life to be one that would be dreaded, a life filled with difficulties, hardship, and turmoil because of his disability, but then they wouldn&#8217;t have known the Warnocks. I don&#8217;t know many families who I can say are as dedicated to each other as the Warnocks, though I know they aren&#8217;t unique, as far a families go who have one or more members with disabilities, but in these families, like the Warnocks, who I do know, they are stronger than most because of that dedication.<\/p>\n<p>Above all that Zack faced, his life was filled with love. He not only received it, but he gave it through his smiles, his twinkling eyes, and his soft giggles. Larina often spoke and wrote about these qualities in him so, though I never met him, I felt as if I knew him. After many days of trying to write something about him for his family and failing, I was directed to his obituary, written by Larina, in their local paper from a link on a website the day before his memorial service. In it, I came across the phrase &#8220;shades of joy,&#8221; and all became clear to me. These three little words are a perfect characterization of Zack&#8217;s personality, and I began to write what turned into a poem with that title.<\/p>\n<p>It is a simple poem, purposely written in the tone of a child&#8217;s nursery rhyme to honor the innocence of childhood, though the tempo of the poem is meant to be read much slower with longer pauses at the commas and line breaks for emphasis, with reverence and tenderness. It is one of the few poems I&#8217;ve written in just a few hours that I&#8217;ve ever allowed anyone to see before it has gone through many, many revisions over the course of days or weeks, or longer, and the editor and critic in me sees many places where it would benefit from more work, but it is as it is, and it will remain unchanged from how it was when I sent it to Larina.<\/p>\n<p>I was honored to learn that the minister who presided over Zack&#8217;s memorial service opened the sharing segment of it with the poem. Larina wrote to tell me that he <em>did the poem great justice<\/em> and that <em>he seemed to know exactly how I would have read it<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p>For me, though not mentioned in my little poem, Zack is always present in my mind whenever I see box elder bugs because they remind me of the twinkle in his eyes, though I&#8217;ve only ever seen it in photos, and I will always remain grateful to these little creatures for their gift of a memory. If you read &#8220;<a href=\"http:\/\/www.thelivesyoutouch.com\/touchjournal\/Issue01\/A_Little_Perspective.html\">A Little Perspective<\/a>,&#8221; you&#8217;ll understand why.<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" id=\"image181\" src=\"http:\/\/www.opwfredericks.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/06\/zachary_mark_2.jpg\" alt=\"zachary_mark_2.jpg\" \/><\/p>\n<p>~<\/p>\n<p><strong>Shades of Joy<\/strong><br \/>\nfor Zachary<br \/>\n<em>by O.P.W. Fredericks<\/em><\/p>\n<p>His colors rose October 6th,<br \/>\nin gleeful shades of joy;<br \/>\nhe carried them each day he lived,<br \/>\nthis gentle, quiet boy.<br \/>\nAmong the instruments of care,<br \/>\nsurrounding his abode<br \/>\nbegan the crafted mirth of one<br \/>\nin life, his bliss, it flowed.<\/p>\n<p>And though he fought for every breath<br \/>\neach one he took would count<br \/>\nto bring great strength to those he loved,<br \/>\nthey knew he would surmount.<br \/>\nTo overcome adversity<br \/>\nencountered by this child,<br \/>\nhe bore each pain with spunk and grit<br \/>\nand with it all, he smiled.<\/p>\n<p>In times of strife and heartache too,<br \/>\nhis giggles could be heard<br \/>\nfrom deep within his soul they rose<br \/>\nas lofty as a bird;<br \/>\nand though his time with us was brief<br \/>\nhe made each moment last,<br \/>\nand through the many friends he made<br \/>\nhis family grew vast.<\/p>\n<p>So even though our memories fade<br \/>\nhe gave to us a gift<br \/>\nhis sparkling eyes, his laughter too,<br \/>\nhe made our spirits lift.<br \/>\nWe carry in our hearts each day<br \/>\nthis gentle, quiet boy<br \/>\nto hold him close, his giggles, soft,<br \/>\nhis gleeful shades of joy.<\/p>\n<p>~<\/p>\n<p>O.P.W. 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